And so, here is my message to you (and it goes well beyond the housework:) you, you beautiful, overachieving, inspirational, tired woman: you cannot be brilliant at everything all of the time. Here's how to make that happen and still feel ok:

1. Do less. Make a list of all the processes in your business or home life: what absolutely HAS to be done to ensure it keeps running? Do that (and no more).

I finished a coaching course recently, and was asked "and what is next for you Laura?"

And without thinking I replied with something like this:

"In this season of my life of nurturing and growing, I am going to continue to follow my intuition."

Now I'm out the other side, it's given me an opportunity to reflect on what is in my control and what isn't. This is where the sphere of influence is such a useful exercise (I’ve made you a very simple document to use): to establish what you might be able to influence, those things which you allow yourself to accept and move on from, and those things you might want to get excited about and start to control more actively (yes we are allowed to control things!)

Sometimes you just have to decide to decide. 

Let me expand: have you ever ummed and ahhed over a decision, pondering away until - ooh - it's the weekend, you'll think about it again on Monday?

Perhaps you've done copious research, you've listened to all the advice, you've read all the reviews, you've watched all the videos. 

But actually - you sometimes just need to decide to make a choice.

I am #busybeingabrilliantmum, creating a wonderful life for my children, keeping them alive (!), dreaming of a fabulous future for my family that I am making. I am helping my clients realise their dreams. I am making music with teenagers and helping them get excited about learning. I am learning every day. I am doing my best. I am more than enough.

I am totally confident in my choices – I still have to regularly assess what confidence means to me, and if I’m on the right path for me and my family, but that comes from a place of excitement and love, not fear and negativity. I know when I work with my clients that I help them get to that point, it’s why I love my job and love working with amazing women. Confidence in all that – it’s there in abundance.

Mindset can also be referred to as working on your attitude, your general psyche, your energy, your approach, your beliefs...

I always think it’s a bit like hypnobirthing - our brain associates certain words or phrases with certain physical or emotional responses. Training our brain to surround itself with a set of words, approaches and attitudes that are inherently associated with positive outcomes can, in turn, generate more positive outcomes.